No, wait.
That's Burger King.
My bad.
![]() |
Trust me. He's upset. Or deranged. |
![]() |
In any event, RFK Jr. isn't loving it. |
![]() |
Some do, though. "French, you say? Get 'em outta here!" |
No, wait.
That's Burger King.
My bad.
![]() |
Trust me. He's upset. Or deranged. |
![]() |
In any event, RFK Jr. isn't loving it. |
![]() |
Some do, though. "French, you say? Get 'em outta here!" |
Prologue: My stepfather would have been 84 today. However, like my mother, we were denied the privilege of growing old with him. That said, I've reposted this many times since then. For the two of you who are regular readers, you've seen this before. But, I've updated it a little just to keep your interest. For those of you for whom this is new, welcome. I hope you can get a sense of how much this man meant to my family.
![]() |
Good times |
I’d spent a considerable amount of time deciding whether to write this when I first decided to...uh...write this back in 1997.
![]() |
This originally came out that year. We may see the sequel in 2026. |
At first blush, it seemed disrespectful. I mean, how could telling a funny story about my stepfather’s funeral be anything BUT in poor taste?
The more I thought about it, though, the
more I realized that our final respects to “Poppy” weren’t contrived or
phony. Rather, they were a sincere goodbye
to one of the family and the way I’d wanna go when I...uh...gotta go.
![]() |
Which, frankly, is a lot closer now than when I first wrote this 28 years ago. |
Ray, or “Poppy” (as he came to be known),
came into our lives when we were children.
Our mother, having grown tired of living with a man who resembled Ralph
Kramden, acted like Archie Bunker, and possessed the social skills of Fred
Flintstone, secured a divorce. She somehow managed to convince this relatively
young man that living with five kids really wasn’t much worse than a prostate
exam from Edward Scissorhands.
So it went through thick, thin, and adolescence until, after the untimely death of our mother, it was Ray to whom we turned as head of the family.
Even though he remarried a few years later, he was still
the glue which held us together.
He took us to ballgames, gave us advice,
provided an anchor through tough times, and was a father to five kids when he
didn’t have to be. He may have thought
onion dip with chips was high cuisine and Howard Stern was Masterpiece Theater,
but he was our model for manhood.
![]() |
His feet also smelled like death when he took his sneakers off. |
When he succumbed to cancer in 1996, we were overwhelmed with grief at the loss of someone who had guided us
into adulthood, and sadness that our own children wouldn’t get to know him as we
had.
NOTE: Many more children have been born since then.
As funeral preparations went into high
gear, we didn’t have a lot of time to dwell on the person we had lost. Concerned with the how and where, we began to
lose our grip on the “who.”
During the two-day viewing, my brothers,
sister, and I took our proper places in the front row (the only place where being
in the “front row” is not a good
thing) and paid our respects to all who came to...uh...pay their respects.
For two hours, we sat quiet as mummies,
while mourners shuffled by the open casket.
As they finished, they turned to us, murmuring “I’m sorry,” “He looks so
natural,” (one of the stupidest sayings known to man), or some other such
platitude before rushing home to watch “Jake and the Fat Man.”
Needless to say, it was kinda rough. Enduring the parade of mourners while
solemnly staring at someone who looked nowhere near “natural” took its toll.
The second night was a little
different. Although prepared to be good
soldiers, our solemn façades began to break down after
the arrival of one of my brother's old girlfriends.
I’ve always admired her for showing
up. She didn’t come to see my brother;
she came to say goodbye. This, of
course, didn’t stop the smirks from me and my other siblings. Nor disapproving looks and hushed “tsk tsks”
from some of the other, more distant, relatives.
Through it all, though, we maintained our
composure.
Until my other brother's old girlfriend showed up. More smirks.
Then, when one of MY old girlfriends arrived (with a nose ring that
looked downright painful), smirks became giggles.
Picture of Madonna submitted for entertainment use only. Because she's someone's old girlfriend. |
Giggles became whispered jokes. And whispered jokes became throwing our voices at the casket when elderly relatives showed up.
NOTE: We are now the elderly relatives. As for the former elderly relatives? Put it this way...when we speak of them, we use past tense.
As bad as our performances at the “home”
were, they were nothing compared to the actual funeral.
Starting off with a service at the Episcopalian Church (aka “Catholic Light”) we ended up at the biggest cemetery in town.
NOTE: Its parking lot was so big, it was divided into "Dead Disney Characters" sections. We parked in "Bambi's Mom."
Yes, I realize that sounds dirty.
A military funeral (because he was in the Marines), the service was very dignified and steeped in an appropriate level of sadness.
At its conclusion, everyone but immediate family
withdrew to a cold cuts, doughnut, and coffee fest at the Elks Lodge.
![]() |
Something about funerals makes me crave boiled ham and cheese on little rolls. Good thing he wasn't Jewish. My first wife was, though. I ate hers. |
![]() |
We were told there'd also be beer. |
Me, my siblings and our spouses remined behind. We stared quietly at the casket, suspended over the open vault. Festooned with an untold number of floral garlands, its mute presence reminded us of our loss.
It was then I felt a little guilty over our
hijinks from the night before.
As we began to move toward our cars, we heard an almost imperceptible “psst!” Quickly scanning the cemetery, I didn’t see anything or anyone. Still looking, we heard it again and spotted a head peering around the side of a tree.
![]() |
Since it was 1996, we didn't think it was Joe Biden |
Suddenly, George, one of our classmates from high school, stepped from behind the tree, a 30-pack of Budweiser in
his hand. “Everybody gone?” he called.
![]() |
Back in the quaint old days of the 20th century, no one thought women had dicks. |
When we told him we were the only ones left, he came over to the site and placed the case on the ground. “Well, here you are.”
Sensing we had no clue what he was talking
about it, he said, “When Ray knew he was going to die, he told me to get a case
of beer and go to his gravesite and hide.
Then,” he went on, “when everybody but the kids left, he told me to come
on out and let you have a beer on him.”
Stunned, we stared at George, the beer, and
the grave.
Nobody said a word for a few minutes. Then, one of us-I don’t remember who-grabbed
a can. The rest of us immediately
followed.
Popping our tops, we raised our cans to
Poppy in toast.
Before we drank, though, my brother said,
“Wait!” Opening a Bud, he set it on top
of the casket, “Well, here you go, cheaper than you can get at Yankee Stadium.”
With that, we all had a beer to the memory
of our father.
Needless to say, we finished that case and,
despite the “These people are nuts” looks from the cemetery workers, stayed
until the casket was finally lowered into the ground.
It may have been a strange way to act at a
funeral, but we knew that was the way Poppy would have preferred it. Why else would he have had the presence of
mind to contract the services of “Funerals By George”?
At the post-service "Deviled Eggs and
Macaroni Salad Fest", we were discussing how we’d like to be remembered
when it was our turn to shuffle off this mortal coil. We agreed that nobody should be sad; while “have
fun with it” sounded morbid, it pretty much summed up our philosophies.
Then, we “handicapped” who would go
next. After focusing on who had the most
hazardous profession, we finally centered
on health problems. While none of us had any medical issues to speak of (that has long since changed), one of my brothers and I did have high blood pressure. Since we couldn’t decide who was more likely
to die next, we flipped a coin.
I lost.
Ray died when he was 55.
I am now 67.
Wonder if George has a website?
Okay, this is
going to sound wicked self-serving.
Perhaps it is, but this past Friday was my 67th
birthday. It was fun in a morbid realization
that the extended warranty on my body has expired kind of way. But, at least I’m on the right side of the
hole.
For now.
Anyway, the occasion called to mind
my 19th birthday wayyyyyyy back in 1977. As I told the story of what happened that day
to my coworkers, I was reminded of a short story written in 1902 by the
Englishman W.W. Jacobs, “The Monkey’s Paw.”
Seriously, that's how my mind goes. But, if you've been coming around here a long time, you probably already new that.
![]() |
"What does this have to do with his birthday?" "Don't worry. He'll get to it. I hope." |
NOTE: That he was an “English” man is probably irrelevant, but, hey, creative writing!
I won’t go
into the entire plot because, let’s face it, you want to get in and get out
with this post. No sense clogging it up
with…words.
Suffice to say the
aforementioned paw had the power to grant three wishes, but at a terrible cost.
The horror part of this thing kicks off when the main character wishes for 200 pounds.
Hey, whaddya know, being "English" is relevant!
![]() |
"Quite." |
Apparently, he wanted to make the final mortgage payment on his house.
NOTE: Incidentally, 200 pounds is equivalent to $269.99 in real money (or one of Whoopi Goldberg's legs). Well, at least in 2025. Who knows WTF it was worth in 1902? Hey, I’ve done enough work for you people.
Well, he gets it,
but only as a bereavement payment when his son is killed in a horrible accident.
So, what does this
have to do with my birthday, you might ask?
Well, on July 10, 1977, I was at sea aboard USS America as we made our way back to Norfolk, Virginia.
![]() |
Now sitting at the bottom of the Atlantic Ocean. Everyone was taken off. I think. |
Eventually, though, I would be footloose and fancy-free.
In addition to being a snappy dresser.
As we listened to Manfred Mann's "The Roaring Silence" for the hundredth time,
![]() |
Sadly, it was the only cassette tape we had. It was a good album. The first fifty times. |
I made the comment that the following day was my birthday. How sucky was it that I would have to work?
Yeah, that was back when I actually cared that my body made another trip around the sun. Of course, I had brown hair and everything worked back then, too.
Well, wouldn’t you know? That evening, I got into a pretty significant fight with a huge cook over a set of fully intact rubber gloves.
NOTE: Yes, it was as petty as that.
The upshot is that
I lost. Badly. So badly that I needed twenty-one stitches to
close the gash on the bridge of my nose.
![]() |
Resulting in a scar I carry to this day. And here you thought I was a dreamboat. |
The result of this thrashing was that I was admitted to the ship’s medical ward (aka sickbay). I spent the next day in a hospital bed. I obviously didn’t have to go to work scraping cigarette butts and dried eggs off plates.
So, there was that.
![]() |
Shoot. I make it sound like it was revolting or something.. |
But, that day was July 11th. My birthday.
So, like with the monkey
paw, be careful of what you ask.
You may get it.
And it probably
won’t be $269.99.
![]() |
Shameless Self-Promotion That story-and more!-is in this book. Amazingly, still available on Amazon |
Trust me, you're going to want to click on the link below. Don't worry, it's not some sort of phishing scam or attempt to lure you into the website for NAMFLA (North American Man-Fish Love Association) for which I can reap rich rewards for each click.
![]() |
Or is it? |
Really, it's not.
Actually, while I usually don't post other people's work (mostly because they're generally much funnier than I am), this cracked me up in a "I soooooo know what he's talking about!" kind of way. So, I decided to take a chance and show you what a talented person has to say.
So go ahead and have a look.
![]() |
Unless the middle is being used by this inconsiderate bastard. If so, out again I go. |
![]() |
Now you know the real reason why Dylan Mulvaney wants to use the Ladies Room |
Sigh...yes, yes, I know, I repost this every year. But, I think it's funny. So, sue me.
BTW, I prefer to say "Happy Independence Day," rather than "Happy 4th of July." While I realize no one will confuse your wish for anything else, every country in the entire world has a "4th of July." You may as well wish someone "Happy 16th of August."
![]() |
"Got a card in the mail. It said, 'Happy 4th of July.' Well, I was going to go with the 22nd, but...okay" |
![]() |
Trust me, this picture doesn't nearly capture the bedlam within. |
There is nothing I despise more than a trip to Costco.
Unless it's a trip to Costco on a Sunday afternoon when it's 95 degrees out with a thousand other sweaty people.
Don't get me wrong. The bargains to be had at this discount chain are nothing to sneeze at. From tires to rotisserie chicken, you can definitely stretch a dollar there. But, most everything is sold in bulk. I mean, I honestly think I'll eventually grow tired of eating nothing but cheese and who seriously needs a five gallon container of beefaroni?
![]() |
Even giving it to your horse isn't a good idea |
But, since I needed a new set of glasses
The old ones weren't cutting it anymore |
my wife and I went to Costco for the cheap prices.
Prescription handed over, I thought we could quickly make our escape.
Oh, silly me, there was shopping to be had! So, off she set, me following her with an empty (which wouldn't remain 'empty' for long) shopping cart the size of an aircraft carrier.
An untold variety of cheese, mangoes, a five-dozen pack of razors, orange tree, four bottles of mouthwash, tomatoes (Roman and cherry), the aforementioned rotisserie ostrich chicken, enough snack paks of cookies to feed an entire Girl Scout troop, and a potted plant of some variety (we had to put the kayak back-no room) all made it into our cart.
I finally saw the light at the end of the tunnel as we headed towards the hundreds milling about the three mobbed checkout lines. I was almost giddy with anticipation! My torture was approaching its end! Soon I would be able to scarf down one of the famous Costco hot dogs.
![]() |
To be fair, their hot dogs are awesome. No doubt packed with enough chemicals to kill a horse, but they're almost worth the trip. |
Unfortunately, there was a man selling garden sheds between us and freedom.
Full Disclosure: We had discussed the upcoming expense of a shed for her to do freelance work once she retires. But, that was in the works for the Fall, not two weeks before Independence Day.
It was a nice shed, don't get me wrong. But, long story short...my trip to Costco on a sweltering Sunday afternoon cost me five thousand dollars. Plus, $3.00 for a couple hot dogs and Cokes.
![]() |
It wasn't all I got. My wife posted this on Facebook. Clearly, that's... |
I think I'll join Sam's Club next year. I wonder if they sell hot dogs?
![]() |
Whaddya know? Cheaper, too. |
No, wait. That's Burger King. My bad. Trust me. He's upset. Or deranged. No, t his post is about Mc Donald's...